The Pros and Cons of Long-Distance Relationship

Long-distance relationships are not for everyone. One thing you can expect from a long-distance relationship is that you will be spending far more time apart from your partner than you would in a traditional relationship. Either way, it is important to understand the difference between feeling alone and lonely.

In a long-distance relationship, you may spend extended periods of time alone, in fact, this is one of the common reasons why long-distance relationships fail. However, this need not be a reason for feeling lonely. In this virtual era, it is so easy to stay connected, there are various long-distance date nights LDR couples can go on, virtually. So while loneliness is a factor in a long-distance relationship, there are creative solutions to mitigate it. Imagine living in medieval times when the only way to communicate with a spouse at a distance was to send a letter through your servant, if you had one, or a paid carrier on horseback.

In any case, a long-distance relationship is different from a traditional, proximal relationship. If you’re considering starting a LDR, here are some pros and cons to to help you make the the right decision.

1. Pros: Always Having Something To Look Forward To

Repetitive everyday life can harm a relationship more than distance will. You may lose sight of that spark that lit up the night sky and set you both on a magic ride, fitting of a fiery chapter in a racy romance novel. By contrast, a long-distance relationship will feel like you’re going on a honeymoon over and over. It’s like Christmas morning every time you meet again. The key is to focus on improving the quality of our time together rather than the quantity. Time spent together, in a long-distance relationship, is rarely taken for granted.

2. Pros: Distance Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

It is said that distance makes the heart grow fonder. There may be some truth in this. For some people, it works, for others, it doesn’t. It all depends on the individual. If you are a romantic at heart, a long-distance relationship can fuel your fantasies of bliss and longing. If you are a creative spirit, a long-distance relationship can be the perfect muse to inspire your artistic creations, while leaving you plenty of alone time to work on your artwork. You’ll also find that the distance between you is the perfect excuse for sending each other cool gifts — and here are some long-distance gift ideas for some inspiration.

3. Pros: A Bridge To A New Life

If you have an adventurous spirit, then a long-distance relationship might be perfect for you. You can turn it into an opportunity to engage in a new lifestyle, which will involve plenty of travel and maybe learn a new language. You can also opt for a new life altogether by eventually relocating. A long-distance relationship can be an opportunity and the perfect bridge to help you cross over to a new life.

4. Cons: Costs

Travel costs incurred in a long-distance relationship can become an issue if the distances traveled are major and involve air travel. If your partner lives in a different country, you’ll need to consider the difference in cost of living, if any, between the two countries. Your paycheck may not go as far if you are spending half the year in a country with a higher cost of living than your own.

5. Cons: Trust Issues

Distance can play havoc on our imaginations and unleash a series of unpleasant emotions, ranging from jealousy to feelings of insecurity. A traditional relationship does not guard us against these issues. Whether you are apart one hour, one day, or one month, will not make the difference, if there are trust issues at play. The amount of time spent together will not in itself resolve these issues. Trust needs to be built and earned in any type of relationship.

6. Cons: Starting A Family

If your heart is set on having a family, then a long-distance relationship is not exactly the right formula. We don’t always get to choose who or when we fall in love. If it so happens that you meet that special someone in a place far from home, be sure to talk about what is important to you and if it’s having a family, then one of you may need to relocate.

A long-distance relationship can provide a rewarding and successful life. Remember to set some ground rules that both of you agree to respect. When you are apart, keep busy doing the things you love, work on yourself, and enjoy quality time with friends and family.